Episode 26: The Tinder Swiping Saga Continues

Wow. Online dating really does bring out the worst in people, especially me!My two tinder dates fell through, mostly due to my own flakiness and dating hangups, so I kept swiping and tried to find a match, but it doesn’t feel like I’m getting much closer.In the meanwhile, I’m trying some new channels and also zoom in on where my ideal partner might hang out…and/or what channels he’d use to find ME!Here are the chatGPT prompts and answers I reference in this video. LOL.PROMPT:Where do handsome, fit, wealthy, kind, chivalrous men in their 40’s hang out ?Men like that don’t usually “hang out” in obvious singles venues. In their 40s—especially if they’re fit, successful, and kind—they organize their lives around purpose, mastery, and values, not nightlife. You’ll find them where standards are implicit and behavior matters.Here’s where they actually show up, by category—and why.1. High-Commitment Fitness (not flashy gyms)These men train for longevity and discipline, not vanity.* Private training studios / invite-only gyms* Tennis, squash, or padel clubs* Masters swimming programs* Cycling groups (especially early-morning rides)* Rowing clubs* Martial arts with lineage (BJJ, aikido, kendo)Why: Consistency, self-control, and humility matter here. Chivalrous men prefer environments where effort > display.2. Intellectual + Cultural SpacesThey’re curious, grounded, and socially literate.* Author talks, book salons, philosophy nights* Museum patron events and exhibition openings* Classical music concerts, chamber music, jazz* Independent cinema Q&As and film societies* Language schools or cultural institutes (French, Italian, Goethe)Why: These environments filter for emotional intelligence and respect. Loud egos don’t last here.3. Purpose-Driven Travel & Skill RetreatsNot party travel—competence travel.* Hiking, alpine or sailing expeditions* Cycling or ski trips organized by clubs* Writing, photography, or meditation retreats* Culinary workshops (especially regional or plant-forward)Why: Men who invest in growth and skill tend to be relationally mature.4. Quiet Wealth Social Circles (Not Flashy)Truly wealthy men avoid show.* Private member clubs (not influencer-y ones)* Angel investor salons or invite-only dinners* Philanthropic boards and fundraisers* Environmental, arts, or education nonprofitsWhy: Kind, chivalrous men care about stewardship, not status signaling.5. Faith-Adjacent but Not DogmaticEven if not religious, they value meaning.* Interfaith dialogues* Ethics or contemplative groups* Volunteer-based community initiativesWhy: These men have a moral compass—and practice it quietly.6. Where They AreNotThis matters just as much.* Loud cocktail bars* Dating apps as a primary channel* Clubs or party-heavy beach scenes* Places that reward bravado over courtesyIf you see a man who needs to be seen, he’s usually not chivalrous.7. The Meta-Truth (Important)Men like this don’t approach everyone.They approach women who signal:* Self-respect without hardness* Warmth without neediness* Standards without superiority* A full life they’d add to, not rescueYour environment selects them—but your presence activates them.8. If You’re in Eur